VERA CHIDI-MAHA

 

Simply earlier than the Covid-19 saga and subsequent lockdown, Priscillia bought married to her sweetheart, Ben. The marriage was fairly an elaborate one; this was anticipated contemplating Ben’s very rich background. Individuals of sophistication had been in attendance.

The automotive park was stuffed to the brim with alternative automobiles, telling us in additional methods than one the calibre of attendees on the wedding ceremony. Everybody was gaily dressed to swimsuit the event.

Assorted meals and drinks had been on supply. It was Priscilla’s and Ben’s day. It adopted that everybody ought to rejoice with them, their mother and father, mates and naturally their relations.

Of all of the attendees, James was distinctive. He was within the midst of all of it; in a world of his personal. He felt empty. He blamed himself for attending Priscilla’s wedding ceremony.

By no means did he assume she could be marrying one other particular person. She was his love. They dated for seven years. It bought to a degree of their relationship when Priscilla started to really feel her organic clock was starting to tick. She needed to calm down and have infants, construct a house with James.

James, in fact, needed marriage, however not simply but. He needed all the nice issues of life. He needed consolation for his would-be spouse.

He needed to make sufficient cash to ship his would-be spouse overseas to have their infants. He needed to make sufficient cash to ship their youngsters to the perfect colleges cash can afford. He needed the perfect.

When it grew to become apparent that James was not prepared for marriage, Priscilla summoned up the braveness to interrupt their seven-year onion.

Thereafter, she met Ben. In comparison with James, Ben was an enormous boy by all requirements. He was additionally handsome; no sane woman might ask for extra. To crown all of it; in six months he was asking for Priscilla’s hand in marriage.

“Sure! Priscilla replied, blushing on the similar time.

“Sure, I will likely be your spouse; sure, I wish to be the mom of your kids.

“Sure, I wish to develop outdated with you,” she answered Ben, who at this level was on a bended knee. He bought up, hugged her and quietly slipped the engagement ring on her finger.

Priscilla in equity to her; advised James about Ben and the explanation why she needed to transfer on. When the marriage date was fastened, James was the primary particular person she invited. He felt awkward at first. He didn’t see any motive why he needed to be current on the wedding ceremony.

However his ex talked him into attending. From the second he stepped into the marriage ceremony, he felt pangs of remorse flowing by him. He felt eyes on him.

He was stared at by individuals who knew. He silently puzzled what they had been interested by. Had been they making jest of him? Had been they sneering at him or had been they feeling sorry for him? He regarded up at Priscilla, glowing like by no means earlier than; she was even prettier than he had ever seen her. She regarded so blissful and peaceable. He knew it was a unsuitable of him to have attended.

He regarded down, to his desk; tear welling up in his eyes, he grabbed his automotive keys and dashed for the automotive park. For the primary time in his grownup life, he let off his feelings and allowed tears stream down his face.

After listening to James’ expertise, my different mates talked about how they might react in the event that they discovered themselves in the identical state of affairs. Beneath is how I chronicled their reactions.

Bolaji: “Oh sure! I’d be the happiest visitor! Why not? I all the time discuss to my ex. It’s a very good factor! I imply, my ex remains to be my greatest pal! If she is blissful, I’m blissful. And I imply it. My ex and I had fun as a result of we nonetheless have the identical mates”.

Niyi: “Sure! I’ll attend so long as they had been sort sufficient to ask me. “I’d positively go. If we broke up on not so good phrases, for no matter motive, I’d nonetheless go if invited. Simply to see them get hitched could be nice.

Then, I wouldn’t have to fret about them interested by the unrequited once more. It’s the proper factor to do, so long as you’re invited, simply attend it. I’d even be blissful for them, so long as they’re blissful for me”.

Funmi: “If I weren’t married and I had been so in love with my ex, I most likely wouldn’t go. What for? I’d solely harm myself extra. It’s simple to say issues than do it.

And it’s laborious to fake that you simply’re actually blissful if you find yourself harm deep inside. But when I weren’t deeply in love with my ex and he invitations, then I’d go.

I wouldn’t come uninvited both. After I was getting wedded, my quick ex attended. I didn’t invite him personally, however he was a choir member in my church so what might I do? I felt he was harm. I might sense it, however males have satisfaction.

“I do know that males will not be too emotional. He congratulated me afterwards and advised me he was blissful for me and that we might nonetheless be mates.

However guess what? The subsequent time we met at a perform, I greeted him however he by no means replied. Now, we’re mates after eight years”.

 Samuel, on his half, has a opposite view.

He mentioned: “In truth, to show the tables, I had about three ex-girlfriends at my wedding ceremony. And I’ve been to all theirs too. It’s no huge deal; we’re adults.

If anybody is the jealous sort, the problem could possibly be a bizarre one. However once more, it’s all good. If somebody is getting married, all emotions ought to put aside.

Marriage is the tip recreation so far as relationships go. So when one among my exes will get married, that successfully places a cease to any thought of getting again collectively.

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